Question by Young grasshopper: How to not feel bad about getting rid of these clothes?
Hey guys, so my mom is a pretty big pack rat, to the point where I have begun to wonder if she has a very mild case of hoarding (I’m serious. I’m doing neuroscience and you can’t even like walk in her room because there are so many clothes). There are a lot of kids in the family so we have a lot of hand me downs and old clothes, but it has gotten to the point where there are bags and bags of clothes around the house that are literally from 20 years ago that no one fits into anymore or are just so outdated. It has caused a surmount of stress for everyone yet my mom never gets to the clothes. For example back in June we sorted out all these clothes and put them into piles to bring them to Plado’s closet and Once Upon a Child. However, she never just brought them to the places to get rid of them. They were stll sitting there. So today I just went out myself and brought them to the places but neither of them took any of the clothes because they were too worn and outdated. So I ended up donating them in a Salvation Army box and my mom ended up getting really pissed because she said she was going to donate them to another place and get a tax reduction.. I feel really bad about the tax reduction, but at the same time she was NEVER going to get to them. She NEVER does. What do I do? I feel bad we lost the money for the taxes because we don’t have a lot. Please help?? Thanks for answering.
Answer by Mircat
Her anger is just because the clothes are missing period. Has nothing to do with the tax credit and believe me it wouldn’t have been all that much. If you’ve ever watched hoarding then you should recognize these behaviors and if you want it to get done you’re going to have to do it yourselves not wait for her to do it. Suggest she get counseling instead of going through clothes. Just do it for her because she is never going to. She’s a hoarder.
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