Question by daf yhuthj: A thought. Are we giving up to fast?
Hey to all readers,
I am probably not experienced in relations as much as the majority of the readers here. I m young, only 23 years old. So my record is not really impressive. I know. But let me share with you a thought I have. Something I have built In my mind. My thought is about relations between couples, not just married ones. I think something got lost on the way. You can say its just a words. Well, words are a lot. Just paying attention in filling the smallest of things can make the biggest change for you two. It could do such a change in the mystery world the two of you live in. Its nothing complicated. You may think it is because every where you point your look, there are splitting couples. Hey. The first thing you got to do, in the way I see it, is start understanding what you want. Maybe, like me, you envy those old couples holding hands at the peer and deep in you want this. Wanting is not enough. Wrong!!! It is. I think all is need is to come to the understanding that there is a person (that you love) in the to other side. It all became so…ugly and superficial. I don’t really know how to bring the thing I feel into words, I just hope you feel it in within. Words, soft ones, are something to practice on. Its all about making your partner…make room for some mooshy stuff…feel special. You came home from a hard day, that’s great. You are not alone. there is someone else in the next room that also just came from a hard work day, maybe harder than you had. come on!!! Ever thought of it that all it takes is for you to listen. Just listen. All I am saying is that if you love- show it. Make it look like its important to you. Don’t be lazy. If you would- it won’t bring you two holding hands in your elderly.
I don’t know, maybe it just me but I think its huge. Experience it. The outcome would be instantly in shape of a smile, of hug or just a a eye piercing look. Respect. Respect is the key of relationships. A lost key. Find it and use it. Don’t Give up so fast. Try understanding the other side.
Answer by Jess
I agree- I have only been married for 3 years- and during these years I have had plenty of reasons to leave my husband. However, when I spoke my marriage vows I meant them. Divorce to us was never an option- and I think to so many people it is..the way out. Marriage is NOT easy- I tell others it is like having another full time job and unless you are willing to work at that other job don’t get married.
It is a daily joy for me to respect my husband and do things to make his life easier….I do this because he loves me so much and does the same for me. It is not always easy- we have our moments. But we are committed to each other with a love that is worth it.
Good thoughts- Don’t give up too fast. Or don’t go into a marriage with the thought that if this doesn’t work then we can just seperate. (I am NOT talking about the situations that there is abuse or cheating…if that is the case LEAVE now)
What do you think? Answer below!